Make Love Better

How to Own Your Story, Connect with Your Partner, and Deepen Your Relationship Practice

by Jan Dworkin, PhD.

Let’s face it, relationships are hard.

If you’re like many people, your relationship résumé reads something like a spatter pattern. Confusing experiences lie in your wake, and you can’t decipher the learning. Maybe your relationship is littered with messy conflicts or scorched by the ills of the world. Maybe you are lonely—and looking for a partner, or you feel you just aren’t any good at relationships—and you want to get better.

Using stories from her own colorful relationship life and from her work with clients from diverse backgrounds around the world, Jan Dworkin, PhD, lays bare her missteps and triumphs both in and out of the bedroom with honesty, humor, and depth, revealing a rare transparency to her readers. She offers concrete tools to help couples navigate power dynamics and conflicts that arise from differences in gender, class, race, sexual desire, communication styles, dreams and opposing points of view. Through sassy stories, step-by-step exercises, and hard-earned wisdom, Dworkin guides readers to build their very own “relationship practice.”

Whether you are embarking on a new relationship, striving to improve an existing one, or recouping after a breakup, prepare yourself to laugh, cry, and gain the education of a lifetime. This is the real world of relationships with no holds barred.

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“Jan Dworkin has written a highly original and very personal guide to navigating and improving relationships. She holds nothing back as she shares brutally honest personal stories to help those struggling with intersectional relationship issues and power dynamics. The result is a distinctive, compelling, and practically useful read.”

— Cindy Gallop, founder and CEO of MakeLoveNotPorn

“Jan Dworkin serves as a wonderful guide through the challenging terrain of intimate relationships. Through her engaging personal stories, vivid bedroom tales, and case studies from her vast cross-cultural experience as a couples’ therapist, she offers us a clear and powerful pathway to happiness in love. Make Love Better is brimming with deep wisdom and practical suggestions that will help your relationships for years to come.” 

— Katherine Woodward Thomas, M.A., MFT, author of the New York Times bestseller Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After and the national bestseller Calling in “The One”: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life

Make Love Better is a radically inclusive, incredibly generous, and totally accessible blueprint for a new age of romance and sex. If you want to improve your relationships, your sex life, and your own self-worth and inner wisdom, get this book.” 

—Jessica Graham, author of Good Sex: Getting Off without Checking Out

“Dr. Jan Dworkin has written an unusually honest, deep and comprehensive book about relationships. She demonstrates a profound commitment to following the process of her dreaming. By revealing her own learning path she will inspire others. Dr. Dworkin shows readers that bringing awareness to their relationship interactions is a form of world work, and has the potential to change the world.”

—Arnold Mindell, Ph.D., author of Sitting in the Fire: Large Group Transformation Using Conflict and Diversity and Process Mind: A User’s Guide to Connecting with the Mind of God


Discover a radical new attitude
and skillset to build your relationship practice!

Make Love Better means…

Better self-awareness

  • Know the dreams and stories that impact your attitudes and behaviors

  • Make friends with your powers AND the powers you miss 

  • Tame your triggers and become less reactive 

  • Celebrate boundaries AND bonding

  • Take off the blinders. Learn to relate to your partner and not to your dream.

Better connection

  • Communicate your truths—including the ones in your body and dreams 

  • Engage in robust, creative and healthy conflict 

  • Tackle intersectional power dynamics. Uplift yourself AND your partner 

  • Transform sex disturbances into opportunities for greater intimacy… AND hotter sex

  • Discover the hidden messages in your cravings and addictions

Better Depth

  • Defy stereotypes and socialization. Unstick your roles and rigid points of view

  • Find new meaning AND a sense of purpose in your partnership


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About the author:

Jan Dworkin, PhD, has more than 25 years of international, cross-cultural experience as therapist for individuals and couples and as a conflict resolution educator and facilitator. She co-founded the Process Work Institute, co-authored its masters programs, and served as its academic dean for ten years. Jan is also an executive coach specializing in leadership development in the creative industries.